Origin of Relationship

The word, a relationship is the most trending, either you check in google or in any social media posts. Relationship is now a part of life but apparently, it became life for all of us.

We used to ask other’s relationship status and find out ours in the middle of our lives. Well, I’m not here to tell you what you already know. But I’m here to share you that, how the decision of marriage and love has changed and the not so new concept of relationship had emerged.

Back to 1900s, where arranged marriage was the only way to meet your partner. Parents were the commander of marriage. But how the trend has changed from an arranged marriage to a relationship.

The idea of dating truly started at the turn of the twentieth century. Preceding the late mid 1900s, romance was a significantly more private, dispassionate undertaking. Ladies would meet with a few men, with her folks present, to trim the pickings down to the most appropriate counterpart for marriage, which intensely depended on elements, for example, money related and economic wellbeing. At the point when a young lady settled on a man she needed to see only, their exercises as a team occurred either in the family, or at parties. Around then, there was nothing of the sort as only two youthful darlings “going out on the town.”

Dating had totally supplanted the old arrangement of calling by the mid-1920s — and, in this manner, had changed American romance.” This was a timeframe when couples began going out on dates, which additionally implied they began paying for dates. This changed the relationship dynamic between a youngster and a young lady, as now it was the man’s obligation to pay for the date, though before it was the lady who chose the particulars of the visit.

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In Jodi O’Brien’s book, Encyclopedia of Gender and Society, Volume I, she writes, “Different institutions were becoming more prominent in the lives of young men and women, such as school, college, and workplaces, which exposed them to a large pool of potential dating partners. As a result, the purpose of dating was primarily to have fun, not to find a marriage partner. However, couples would form after several dates if they were interested in having more exclusive relationships.

With the introduction of dating also came the focus on falling in love, rather than finding a society-approved match

In the 1950s, “going steady” was the term for being in an exclusive relationship. This status was about the relationship, sure, but it was also about standing out amongst your peers. According to the University of California, Santa Barbara, “Across university campuses, couples publicized their decision to ‘go steady’ when the man gave the woman an article of his clothing to wear, such as a jacket, sweater, or ring.” Dating had become much more about youth culture than about family expectations.

Between the popularization of rock ‘n’ roll, and protesting the Vietnam War, 1960s youth culture was hot for revolution. Not only was it the activities of the US government that young people were resisting, but they were shirking old social conventions as well.

There were no rules for dating anymore. Young people did what they wanted, when they wanted, and modern-day “hook up” culture began.

The next major change in dating started with the introduction of matchmaking services and the internet.

In 2017, you can’t turn your head without finding someone who has at least one dating app on their phone: Tinder, Plenty of Fish, and Bumble, to name a few

The more easier the dating is now, the more complicated to find the partner who can fall in love for you.

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